The Sea Change in Relationships.

The old ideas of having to stand on your own two feet and be independent, have been completely revised.

We now realize that human beings have evolved to depend on other people.  

We need to have a safe haven from which we can go out into the world and explore.  This safe haven starts with your parents and continues with your partner.  

Fear of being alone, of being disconnected from your partner, causes panic and triggers a survival mode where we either demand attention or withdraw.