Christmas and Couples
Christmas is a wonderful and difficult time of year, especially for couples. We want to feel loved and appreciated but at this super-family oriented moment many of us feel stressed, distant and alone in our marriages and relationships.
The Holidays are a massive time drain: there are work events, family dinners, presents to buy and money to worry about. As a couple, we may individually feel the anxiety about getting all the right presents, going to all the events, or can we actively reach for one another and do it together.
By together, I mean as a team, sharing our worries and anxieties, being vulnerable with one another and showing our true selves.
When we feel understood by our partner, and fully known, we feel comforted and safe. This is the best gift we can possibly give to our significant other.
By slowing down, checking in and listening and feeling what our partner is experiencing is the key to a good relationship. A healthy relationship is about being known, seen, heard and cherished by our loved one. This felt sense of knowing one another is crucial to passion and good sex.
So for Christmas, I wish for you all who are in relationships, mutual attunement, passion and the gift of great love and good sex!
Warmly,
Trevor Crow, LMFT
