Relationship Tips: Attunement
We all know how hard it is to stay "in love" with our partner. So many of my couples come in after years of being together and saying "I love him/her but am not IN love with him/her". This is so painful for me to hear and to observe in couples.
It means there is lots of loneliness and distance for both people, this is of course only one of the reasons why couples seek me out.
Usually couples come in after a BIG CRISIS, but I will write more about that later.
Today I want to give you all a tip! If you are in a relationship of any kind: be attuned. That means check in with your partner. Really ask, "how are you?" and mean it. Take the time to slow down and listen.
Empathize with your partner's experience, attunement means, connecting and sharing your partner's internal world.
Spend time understanding and feeling what your partner is feeling. We are most connected when we have the felt sense of being in our partner's heart and mind.
This is the sweet spot: when we feel known, understood, not judged or criticized, we feel held, safe and much more connected to our loved ones.
That is when we feel "IN love" with each other. And the sex really does get better too!
So, today, take 10 minutes to connect with your partner, softly, with heart, and open mindedness, you might find greater understanding and parts of your partner you weren't aware of.. Newness, vulnerability and closeness that you didn't expect!
